204. Do Support Groups Actually Work? The Hard Truth About Finding Your People - with Sara Intonato

Apr 02, 2026

Do support groups actually help, or do they reinforce the very mindset that keeps parents stuck?

In this episode, I sit down with Sara Intonato to unpack this difficult question.

Both of us (and probably you) have lived the same reality:

  • Hypervigilance,

  • burnout, 

  • the constant demand of raising a non-speaking child.

When we went looking for help, what we found in traditional support spaces was not growth or even help. 

Unfortunately we found:

  • cycles of venting without direction

  • low expectations presented as acceptance

  • and a normalization of hopelessness

This is a hard but beautiful conversation, that digs deep and lets us find out what really helps. 

We talk about:

  • A simple 1-minute regulation tool you can use in crisis

  • The HALT framework (Hungry, Angry/Anxious, Lonely, Tired)

  • How to think about self-care when even 5 minutes feels impossible

Sara introduces a different model: community with leadership, structure, and high expectations.

Effort is great, but our kids need our regulated presence more!

If you’ve ever felt unsupported in “support” spaces, listen to this episode now.

 
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